“If you have made mistakes, there is always another chance for you. You may have a fresh start any moment you choose, for this thing we call “failure” is not the falling down, but the staying down.” – Mary Pickford
Mary Pickford encourages us all to not be defeated. We have the choice to always choose something different then our status quo. A person who is in recovery from a brain injury will have many unsuccessful attempts at things along the way. I recently have begun reading as much as I can in regards to my state of mind. For myself I found it far easier to continue to push when there were concrete things to attain. The difficulty that I face now is that much of what I have attained is indeed far different than I was prior. I need to always remind myself that every attempt that I make will never result in a failure. I may have numerous unsuccessful attempts but a person chooses a failure by Mary Pickford’s definition. An individual must attempt to remain motivated. An individual who is attempting to remain motivated is far more likely to continue to proactively press on with his/her recovery. Every person will approach rehabilitation and recovery differently. It is important not to get stuck in your everyday routine. A person should never allow his/her self to be disheartened by a momentary "failure." As long as an unsuccessful attempt is seen as just that an individual should feel motivated to continue attempting continuously. Remaining in the moment will always help to direct an individual to remain in the moment. The state of mind of a survivor must always be groomed to help him/her remain on target as to the best way to attempt and approach the recovery at hand. I greatly encourage every survivor who I meet to take part in as much of their recovery as they can. I always try to convey that indeed there will be numerous unsuccessful attempts but they cannot be viewed in any other way. Survivors cannot view their unsuccessful attempts as failures. Failures are permanent and a survivor should desperately try not to envision their unsuccessful attempts as such. I would appreciate any reflections that you may have in regards to any unsuccessful attempts that you may have had.