Tuesday, September 29, 2015

People will never forget how you made them feel

“I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” Maya Angelou

Maya Angelou helps to remind individuals that there is a great need to focus on the lasting effect of each interaction that we will have. It is very important to remember that life will present many opportunities to us that offer choices of ways for us to interact with others. It is important to remember what things you have held onto as the lasting memories from interactions with people. As we mature, there is far less focus on what has been done for you and rather much more so on how an interaction made you feel. Leaders are made because of how they are able to inspire and cause people to feel incredibly empowered. It is incredibly easy to forget what people said or did. The lasting memories come from emotions and how an interaction caused you to feel. Hopefully my position can help to affect the patients who are in our hospitals. Each employee where we work is groomed that it is of the utmost desire to cause a positive and pleasant experience to every guest/patient that we have contact with. The specifics are not of the most importance and rather the overall impact of how an experience left you is the most important. There is always room to improve upon how you are able to impact a person. With a brain injury, specifics are extremely difficult to keep track of. The way an interaction leaves you feeling is a definite way for a person to keep inventory on an experience. Having mentors to share how a certain experience made them feel is a great way to help you gauge how you are tackling your life as a survivor. Support groups are an incredible place to make connections and friends with like-minded people. Many people share how they feel of most importance and the underlying characteristic is that they have found a way to make people feel a certain way. The flip side of that is that a person can feel of use and necessity. Following a brain injury it is incredibly liberating to feel of use. To truly feel as an integral part of something is an important and necessary portion of any occupation. I know many volunteers that have felt an invaluable sense of purpose once they had begun taking on his/her role of service. I would love to hear who has had experience volunteering and how that may have affected them. Individuals do not want to just live without purpose. When I was lacking for a purpose, I asked for a pet. I have been in contact with many people who have felt a strong increase in their frame of mind since getting a pet. I would love to hear who has had experience in caring for a pet and gained a greater sense of purpose since taking on the role. I thank you very much for reading and look forward to any responses that you may have.


Friday, September 25, 2015

Don't take yourself too seriously

“It's your outlook on life that counts. If you take yourself lightly and don't take yourself too seriously, pretty soon you can find the humor in our everyday lives. And sometimes it can be a lifesaver.” Betty White

The ability to find humor in our lives is incredibly valuable. The key is to keep your mentality grounded without losing a sense of what is important. I have found and utilized the unique ability of humor to lighten up many situations that I have come across. There is nothing humorous about pushing with everything that you have to regain the ability to ambulate. A person who is in a hospital can be distracted by the ability to giggle at the inevitably awkward moments that will come as a person attempts the ability to move around independently. It is an incredible gift to be able to find light humor in all situations. It is far too easy to lose hope and allow yourself to be overcome by much of life. Life in a rehab setting, (life in a hospital in general) can seem overwhelming and it is easy to fall into the trap of feeling hopeless. Interaction with people is what can keep patients enthusiastic regarding his/her recovery. I am happy to report that I have come across many patients who have taken the initiative to encourage and pose as an enthusiastic influence to many other patients. Positivity is contagious and people feel better as they try and encourage others. People are given a sense of purpose as they are motivated to encourage others. I try and share Betty White’s advice to every person that I meet especially through work. People want to feel encouraged and enthusiastic about the things that they are attempting to do. People need to set out on a venture to help improve the lives of others because in turn they will greatly improve their own lives. It is helpful and necessary to realize that the ability to laugh is incredible and freeing. I would love to hear who else has had a positive experience in their rehabilitation process as a result of humor. I can distinctly recall many times where I have stepped aside and realized that I need to make every attempt possible to hold on to the joyous humor that I was experiencing at that moment. No matter what your circumstance in life, everybody needs to be able to experience humor. I thank you for reading and would welcome any comments that you may have.


Monday, September 21, 2015

Change will happen the moment you have the courage to do something different

~ Change will happen the moment you have the courage to do something different ~ Jenni Young

Jenni Young reminds people that they have to step out of his/her comfort zone and challenge themselves to attempt something different. Too often we get stuck in a habit of living in a monotonous manner. Sometimes being surrounded by different people can cause us to be challenged in different ways. Every day has to be seen as a challenge that we can achieve. Sometimes our own perception is our biggest enemy. Many of us (me included) realize that something has to give yet we are fearful of changing the status quo. The fear of change is a huge hurdle to everyone. As long as safety is accounted for a person should never be afraid of change. A change can be a new beginning for whatever the venture may be. People fear change and I am sure that I am no different. The brain injury comes with its own set of challenges that I have learned to live with every day. A person’s mentality is undoubtedly the largest challenge. We put limitations on ourselves and limit where we are willing to go. Many of these limitations are self-induced. What works and what is going to make us happy are sometimes very different. The best case scenario is not to do anything permanent and rather to try something different. I would love to hear who has been afraid of change and has challenged his/her own reservations. The result is not always positive, but sometimes it is. A person will never know if they don’t try. A person sometimes has to risk failure or comfort in order for a sight of something different. Sometimes individuals that are too stuck inside his/her own head are unable to see beyond his/her sphere of influence. Challenging of familiarity is incredibly frightening to many. I would love to hear examples of when in your life you have challenged yourself to do something different. Going someplace different and surrounding yourself with different people can be a glimpse into what a seemingly insignificant change can provide to your daily routine. Sometimes that is all it takes for a person to see the light. I can think of a time when I visited my best friend in South Jersey and had an unbelievable time. I was surrounded by her and her friends and it was an incredibly gratifying experience. It was simply for a weekend but I carry that memorable experience with me. That was outside of my comfort area and it was exactly what I needed.

I thank you very much for reading!


Friday, September 4, 2015

Working hard for something that we don’t care about is called stress

“Working hard for something that we don’t care about is called stress; Working hard for something we love is called passion.” - Simon Sinek

  Simon Sinek reminds people how important it is to have passion in what we do. There is a fine line between stress and passion. A survivor has to have passion and drive to gain back all that they are able to gain back. An individual following a brain injury needs to be passionate about all that they can gain back. No gains are made without a desire to improve. Life is all about desire. All too often we hear about stress and anxiety as it relates to work. The hardest work that somebody will ever do is to attain a meaningful recovery from a brain injury. I strive to surround myself with people who exude passion. Some people are not even aware of the incredible influence that they can have on others. Encouragement from your surrounding people can help greatly as an individual seeks to improve. While family support is great there has to be a surrounding network of friends and support that are continuously attempting to provide encouragement to a survivor. Stress and anxiety are negative and should never be the primary motivators. Stress and anxiety breed fear and cause a person to lose track of their original motivation. I would love to hear from anyone who can recall a time when their anxieties got away from them. As another summer comes to an end I hope that we all realize the good that we have in our lives. Look around you and realize that everyone needs a compliment and encouragement. Fall is upon us and schools are back in session. I truly hope that everyone had a great summer and I hope that we are all ready for the new season that is upon us. I thank you very much for reading and look forward to reading any responses that you may have.