Saturday, May 30, 2015

Failure and Courage

"You have to fail in order to practice being brave." ~ Mary Tyler Moore

Mary Tyler Moore encourages people to continue trying. One should never discontinue trying something out of fear of failure. In life there will always be failure. There will always be success as well. Internally one should always balance out his/her successes against the failures that were found along the way. The recovery from a brain injury is always riddled with failures along the way. The trick is to not give up the pursuit of gaining things back. True success never comes without its fair share of failures.

The recovery from a brain injury is by far the strangest phenomena that I have ever experienced. You are forever bonded with citizens who have gone through a similar experience. Every survivor goes through an unbelievable spectrum of ups and downs. I have a shared the importance of joining a community where you can feel safe to express your thoughts and emotions as you proceed on in your recovery. I can promise that the recovery from a brain injury will certainly have many opportunities for a person to display bravery and courage.

There is always the temptation to throw your hands up and give up; it is incredibly important not to do so. Through support groups survivors can observe others who are in varying different levels of his or her recovery. In speaking and discussing with others who have proceeded further in his or her recovery, an individual can realize that they are not alone. I always gained an incredible amount of encouragement by speaking with others who traveling along similar paths to myself. I welcome any comments that you may have. Thank you very much for reading.


Friday, May 29, 2015

~Don’t live in the past, don’t ponder about the future, stay at the Present moment Now, Always.” Mark Twain

Mark Twain reminds us to never lose sight of what is truly important. The past and the future are only theories and tools that we can use as we try and make the best of right now. A philosophy professor that I had in college always challenged the students in his class to try and catch themselves in either tomorrow or yesterday; of course none of the students were able to do so and thus his point was proven. It is a bit of a tough balance to keep yourself uplifted in regards to the future without becoming consumed by it. I think that having a mentor is a fantastic way of trying to keep a clear sight of where you would envision yourself. A mentor can help to be a guide as to how to focus your energies. After a brain injury it is easy to lose sight of the most direct path that one should be on to accomplish your goals. Interning is a fantastic way to meet a mentor. A mentor is a fantastic way for anyone to gain valuable advice as they are developing their career. As I have shared before, people who have experienced brain injuries need to be more deliberate in the pursuit of goals. Guidance should always be welcomed.  A brain injury is a good way to have to swallow your pride and accept assistance. I am used to it now but it certainly was not easy at first. Credit has to be given to those who are elder who have already progressed further in their recovery than I had. I am hopeful that survivors of all different levels of his or her recovery can help to advise on another via support groups or a blog or any place where people congregate to discuss the issues and the progression forward in the brain injury recovery. I thank you very much for reading and I welcome any comments that you may have.


Monday, May 11, 2015

Sense of Family Knows No Limitations

“I think togetherness is a very important ingredient to family life.”
Barbara Bush

Barbara Bush reminds us that no matter what we are encountering in life, we can have a sense of family. Even though you may not be related by blood to everyone who surrounds you; there is a sense of family when you are surrounded by like-minded people who are pushing for the same cause.

The recovery from a traumatic brain injury can take on many different forms. I have found a tremendous amount of comfort in communing and listening to numerous different people share what is going on in his/her life. Depending on where the group discussion goes you are always open to asking one another any question that you may have. I enjoy attending support groups where there are many different periods of time from the occurrence of the injury.

My hereditary family has been nothing short of fantastic, yet there is a different level of comfort that comes from sharing and comparing with people who have very likely experienced exactly what you are encountering. I feel as though I have gained a whole second family in those people who have experienced a traumatic brain injury. This family comes from many different cultures and races. A traumatic brain injury certainly does not discriminate.

I am attending a wedding of my cousin this upcoming week, and I am sure that the people who are attending the wedding reception may look at me with raised eyebrows as I attempt to walk in my dress and high heels.

I believe that I have gotten to the point where I am okay with my gate and the fact that I may appear under the influence to many. As long as I know who I am, I am okay in knowing that many people may be unsure why my balance is compromised.

Nobody needs to know my entire story; they can assume what they wish.

I would love to hear who feels the same way as I do or who has had a similar experience where people may have made assumptions or judged them.

Thank you very much for reading.


Saturday, May 9, 2015

The Hero in You

"If you look inside your heart; a hero lies in you,"
~ Mariah Carey

 Mariah Carey performs a fantastic song that strikes a nerve with me in relation to so many aspects of life. Everyone will experience trouble and difficulties in life. Mariah Carey’s song reminds us to not lose touch with our inner strength. Truthfully the goal is for each individual to be able to be motivated by his/her self. I have found it much easier to be motivated when there is an example. I am a huge advocate for everyone having a mentor to help shape his/her goals.

Mariah Carey expresses, “It’s a long road when you face the world alone”. This statement is so true and it in fact does not have to be true. I recently learned of an online community that refers to survivors of a brain injury as a banded together “tribe”. I feel as though it is extremely helpful to be united with others so that nobody feels that they are alone facing the challenges of this injury. So much comfort comes from the strength in numbers that can be felt from a banded community. I have been extremely pleased at the number of resources that are available if you in fact take the time to look. I would love to know who else has found support by other survivors. I am drawn to the incredible need I feel is satisfied by the development of more support groups. Personally I try to make myself accessible to any survivors that I come into contact with. I want every survivor that I come into contact with to know that they have at least one other survivor who is in his/her corner. I would love to hear any thoughts that you may have and I thank you for reading.


Friday, May 1, 2015

Angels Among Us

There are always angels among us. Often times there are people who do beautiful things to aid people without recognition.

I would like to take a moment to recognize three people that have been instrumental in my recovery.

My mother and father have totally put me before themselves, and Carol Stillwell, a contact of mine who I have known for many years, put forward a large effort on my behalf. Carol worked tirelessly to contact many of her professional contacts to try and find me a position that would fit my skill set. I am forever grateful for the effort that she put forth on my behalf.

My family and I have sent many prayers of thanksgiving for the wonderful career that I am working in. None of this would be possible without my dear friend Carol. I would love to hear who has had a guardian angel who worked on his/her behalf. The people who are at the management levels of the company that I work with took her recommendation and in turn gave me an opportunity.

I feel wonderful that this position was begun as a trial and thankfully it has proved to work out quite well. My parents and I are both are forever grateful for the generosity and effort that Carol made on my behalf. I have tried to follow suit by making connections amongst my friends and hoping that a mutually beneficial relationship can ensue.

I feel as though I have grown an enormous amount following my injury. Sort of wish that I didn’t have to undergo the suffering that I did; regardless I am beyond appreciative for the way that things have worked out. I deeply hope that people understand how truly thankful that I am.

With a brain injury it is easy to not remember to say certain things. It is difficult that people may feel as though you purposefully lacked to give thanks, while in reality it may have been the lack of memory. I thank you all very much for reading and would love to hear what experiences you may have had with your memory post injury.