Monday, January 21, 2013

Do Not Dwell in the Past....

Entirely too frequently people who have gone through hardships of any kind or a loss of any kind- dwell on what they have lost or their former lives (prior to the loss). Buddha reminds us of a great philosophy to live by; “Do not dwell in the past, do not dream in the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment”. I have to silently recite that saying to myself daily. I think that after going through any life change, it is easy to allow yourself to slip into a “poor me” mentality. I think that it does not help to look at how things used to be.

My philosophy professor in college always reminded his students of that. He would always challenge us to try and catch ourselves in the past, or the future- neither of which you can which means that the only reasonable option is to do your best to live each day for the most as it comes. There are many difficulties that we will all go through; a brain injury is not a typical life experience- but it is a life experience none the less. I am positive that all survivors of Traumatic Brain Injuries are incredibly resilient. I always try and remind every survivor of that.

Once you take ownership over the fact that you have recovered in some way to an injury where the option was there to just lay and not put in any effort to get better; the strength that each survivor has becomes evident. Finally at 7.5 years post injury, I feel that things are starting to become natural and easy again to me. Wow it certainly did take an extremely long time. This long and arduous road that I have traveled along lets me know that I indeed am strong. I no longer allow silly trivial things to get me as they once did. Life is short, and we should all strive to enjoy and live the most out of every day.

~Noelle

6 comments:

  1. Well said Noelle. Where is the like button?

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  2. Well thank you very much! There is no “like” button, rather the comments that I receive allow me to see that people are enjoying my writings. Please tell everyone you know; I am very fortunate and I love my position.

    ~Noelle

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  3. Wow Noelle....such words of wisdom...
    I was going through an issue that started a few years ago..I was taken by surprise, and put in a very bad way by family members....it really hurt me mentally especially financially every time someone asks me how I am doing
    ..I always find myself "dwelling in the past" I start talking about what happened a while ago and how it hurt me.... I am totally recovered now and doing very well but I still tend to bring it up....I will no longer do that...thanks

    Lambo

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  4. Jeffrey,
    I am so pleased that you were able to relate to my post regarding living in the past. It is difficult to constantly compare ourselves to what we were. Memories should help us but sometimes we are tortured by them. Thank you so much for contributing and sharing a bit of your story.

    ~Noelle

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  5. You are walking proof of the "live for the day" mentality...you have such an incredible outlook on life! Somebody who has been through what you have could easily give up and not live in each days moment but you have a positive and upbeat outlook...i bet there are a lot of people out there that give up and just say how much easier it used to be instead of getting up and changing their current situations! Great advice and great reminder to find the beauty in each and every day...my favorite words to live by is one day at a time, because that's all we have today!

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  6. Josh,
    Absolutely! In college I had a philosophy professor who always tried to challenge us to catch ourselves in any moment besides “right here, right now”. Clearly, none of us ever could and we were forced to look at the current reality and how we were going to live it. There are always two outlooks that we can choose between. The amount of effort is the same… We just always need to decide which path we are going to take.
    Thank you so much for your comment,
    ~Noelle

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