Entirely too frequently people who have gone through hardships of any kind or a loss of any kind- dwell on what they have lost or their former lives (prior to the loss). Buddha reminds us of a great philosophy to live by; “Do not dwell in the past, do not dream in the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment”. I have to silently recite that saying to myself daily. I think that after going through any life change, it is easy to allow yourself to slip into a “poor me” mentality. I think that it does not help to look at how things used to be.
My philosophy professor in college always reminded his students of that. He would always challenge us to try and catch ourselves in the past, or the future- neither of which you can which means that the only reasonable option is to do your best to live each day for the most as it comes. There are many difficulties that we will all go through; a brain injury is not a typical life experience- but it is a life experience none the less. I am positive that all survivors of Traumatic Brain Injuries are incredibly resilient. I always try and remind every survivor of that.
Once you take ownership over the fact that you have recovered in some way to an injury where the option was there to just lay and not put in any effort to get better; the strength that each survivor has becomes evident. Finally at 7.5 years post injury, I feel that things are starting to become natural and easy again to me. Wow it certainly did take an extremely long time. This long and arduous road that I have traveled along lets me know that I indeed am strong. I no longer allow silly trivial things to get me as they once did. Life is short, and we should all strive to enjoy and live the most out of every day.