Tuesday, May 22, 2012

Defeat is Optional

Have you ever heard something that you felt spoke to you in an unbelievable way? I think because of how much I have gone through during this recovery; I feel that many inspirational quotes are applicable to my specific life journey. A quote by Roger Crawford did just that for me; “Being challenged in life is inevitable, being defeated is optional.” How powerful and incredible is that for a person going through any type of trauma? Whether it be physical, emotional or spiritual, I can guarantee you that life will challenge us in many ways. I think that keeping a perspective on the fact that certainly we have all been dealt a difficult hand (challenged) yet we have to refuse to be defeated. Defeat is definitely a temptation; yet we all have to refuse to allow our injury (situation) defeat us. Nobody ever told us that life was going to be easy, after a TBI it is very evident that “easy” is not an adjective that we will ever use mistakenly to describe our life circumstances.

I think it is imperative that we never give up the fight. I love to learn about each and every perspective regarding our injuries (or even life). I try to always take ownership over the fact that I (and we) have overcome a ton and that we are now emotionally and mentally capable of overcoming anything that comes our way. Survivors of brain injury are of gladiator strength. We have been challenged in far more ways than any individual should have to be. That being said, we have the responsibility and ability to inspire. The ability to inspire is a quality that should not ever be underestimated.

I cannot emphasize enough that while I have largely recovered; I am not and will not ever be the same again. I never want to give false hope; rather hope in general. The health care industry and family members alike both hope, pray, and wish for the best recovery possible.



  1. Hi Noelle. I emailed you recently about my son Brian who was in a motorcycle accident on April 20th, he was on his way to meet his fiance to pick out flowers for their wedding in Nov. He is now at a nursing facility called AristaCare where is he is getting physical therapy and being weaned off of the ventilator. Today is day 34, he now has his eyes open at times but still seems to be in a vegetative state. We all sit and talk to him and play his favorite music from his iphone, that's when he moves his hands most. A few positive things mean so much to us. Brian has so many people praying for him and we hope that God answers our prayers and heals the damage to his brain. Is there anything in particular that your family felt helped you when you were in a coma? During recovery? Is the state he's in normal and did you go thru the in and out state? Sometimes I feel like all I can do is pray and talk to him.

  2. Hi Carole,

    Even though the time that you are going through seems agonizing, please know that the pain is for the onlookers. I feel that your relative is in a peaceful state like I was. That being said, no part of watching a family member going through that is easy.

    The key thing to remember is to take care of yourself. I am hopeful that the hospital that your loved one is in has the support services that are needed. I know my parents took advantage of the hotel pool, which was the place they were living very early in my injury recovery. I am sure that your loved one would want you to take care of yourself first. Thank you for writing to me!

    All the best,